>>Parents should respond with tranquility rather than punishing them with anger
Sometimes anger or aggression of child is natural, Kavita Yadav, a Parenting Expert & Coach, and director of JiNa. LivingPositively says. Parents should respond with tranquility rather than punishing them with anger. You can help your child by being aware of what’s probably triggering his/her aggression. Your child is more likely to act aggressively when he/she is tired, sleepy, hungry or thirsty.
Make sure your child gets to rest when he/she is tired and food when he/she is hungry. If possible, you may also avoid places where you know your child will not be comfortable. Aggression may also happen if your toddler feels frustrated, or when they are in an unfamiliar situation, such as starting school. They may act differently if they can’t find the words to express the strong feelings they are having.
Kavita Yadav says “Anger, aggression can be a normal part in a child’s development. A child may hit when angry or even bite, pull hair, kick, throw things around but all this in the manageable limit; meaning able to control, regulate aggression when taught and asked to do so. However, it can also be a sign to some larger problem and parents are advised to seek professional help to understand, manage the situation in better ways. When children do not know how to express their emotions and feelings, most of the times they behave aggressively and rude. Best and the most preferred way of dealing with an aggressive child is distracting or redirecting rather than punishing the child or trying to discipline by yelling or spanking.”
Few tips to manage your child’s anger or aggression:
- Respond by coming down to their eye level. This will help the child understand that you are there to help, support and not overpower or boss around.
- Never hit your child. Hitting the child will pass the message that it’s OK to react angrily when faced with things they don’t like. It also lets them know that they will get attention from parents every time they act up. Give the child simple choices as per the situation. Put on your creative hats to find out novel ways to help your child calm down.
- Be gentle and respect the child’s space, state and emotions. Setting up ritual and routines also helps the child transit smoothly from one activity to another.
It can be a tough task for parents to learn how to handle an aggressive child with behavioral approaches, but for many kids, it can make a big difference. Parents who are calm, confident, and consistent can be very successful in helping children develop the skills they need to regulate their own behavior.