Why do teens get depressed?
Learn to say a polite “NO” to things and people who make you uneasy
Colloquially, to depress means to press down.
It also means to be in a place where you were not in the first place, to be displaced from where you were.
Psychologically, depression means a state of melancholy, of gloom and sadness, of despair and hopelessness.
In one sense, we humans go through such a state, some time or other in our lives.
But for it to be diagnosed to be a psychological depressed state, this feeling of moroseness needs last constantly for at least two weeks or more.
But such facts can be got from any decent internet site which shows us depression and its symptoms.
Why do teens get depressed?
Why apparently more than a generation before?
What about being a teen makes them susceptible to depression?
Rina was a young girl, who lost her father at the age of 16. She appeared to take it well. As an only child, she knew she had to support her mother as well. Earning with studies became her priority.
Living in Gondia, she came to Nagpur to study as well as to earn.
Started living in a hostel. Got herself a part-time receptionist job at a doctor’s clinic and she went to college to complete her BSc. She wanted to train as a lab technician.
She would regularly phone her mother assuring her that all was going smoothly.
One fine day the phones became intermittent. Her mother thought that Rina must be busy and hence the lapse.
It was nearly 17 days later that her mother realising that something was not okay, decided to come to Nagpur to check.
It was the stench of food decaying in the uncleared garbage bin that alerted her senses. Rina was a stickler for cleanliness.
Her mother took her to a physician, who suggested visiting a psychiatrist.
The doctor, after talking to her, checking her symptoms and seeing her unkempt and unresponsive state, advised some medication, but insisted she visit a psychotherapist to help her regain her balance.
What had happened?
It was noted that she had not really wept when her father expired and she felt overwhelmed with the feeling of being responsible. Also, when she came to Nagpur, the alien atmosphere and living alone, increased her internal sense of loneliness. Which she hid.
She, on her own, had overburdened herself with controlling her emotions and somewhere along the effort to cope, to earn, to be away from home, to work in a competitive atmosphere and undergo the pressure of being her best and even looking good caused her to experience a lot of internal stress, which resulted in her breakdown within, causing her depressive state.
Being depressed, the first sign usually is avoidance of social contact.
The withdrawal leads to loneliness.
The loneliness leads to lack of self-worth.
The lack of self-worth results in a lowering of self-esteem.
The lack of self-esteem leads you to avoid your work area where there are people who you feel may judge you.
This results in loss of pay. The earnings wither.
She did not want to trouble her mother.
And so began the spiral…….leading to a black gloom within.
Result: A depressive state.
The best thing to do is such cases are to advise our youth that:
It is ok to be simply ok.
It is ok to be not ok.
There is no need to be perfect
There is no rush to earn big bucks
Teach them techniques to deal with stress, which is and always will be a part of life and living as it should be.
Our minds have to cope.
Coping is good.
It’s part of being healthy.
It’s fine, if you do not have many friends. Learn to develop good, comfortable relationships. Which make you feel better.
Take time out for a hobby.
Learn a new skill along with your work, maybe a new language or a cooking class.
Dance, only if it is in the privacy of your own room.
Learn to be relaxed with yourself. Company is not always required…
Look in the mirror and make yourself, say to yourself, that you are good-looking.
Learn to say a polite “NO” to things and people who make you uneasy.
Spend some time with nature. Even if it is planting small plants in old used cans and creating your own little garden in your room itself.
Go for walks
Or jump and skip in your own room
Hum a favourite song
Learn a new word each day and try using it
And most important. REMEMBER,
Being smart is the new sexy. Seek help when you need it. Value yourself enough to take that step.
Society today is much more accepting of mental health issues and it is opening up to help significantly. The taboo is slowly but surely erasing.
Life is yours and Bliss is within.